Listening In

Listening is one of the most profound compliment you can ever give some one. We think living couples need to engage in healthy conversations to have a healthy relationship. I have a different angle to it. Like the rhythm of waves, conversations have to be embedded with Silence. Silence is one of the powerful gestures we have to be able to show or indicate respect,care,empathy,profoundness and contemplation. Often times we are guilty of processing internally while we are talking.

Periods of silence gives us the ability to Listen.Being heard is deeply fulfilling to every partner.There is drama, emotion and intelligence in listening. It plays a role of alchemy in a relationship that helps you discover the elixir of togetherness.Along with listening comes the art of asking good questions, that makes the act of listening 'divine'. Several days back as I was waiting to get my Chipotle, across the room, along the window I could see a father and daughter engaged in a conversation. She was so engaged there was beauty and eloquence to it. I could see her disengaged with her inner self.And I guess that is the key to effective listening.

You have to be outside yourself, unaware, calm and unconditional to make listening effective.

True and Honest relationships are silently built on true conversations and True conversations are those where listening is not merely an act, but deeper awareness.